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How do I connect with my kids to build memories that last?
What do I teach my kids to prepare them for their future?
How do I show up everyday and become the best dad I can be?

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  • Connect – build memories through moments together
  • Progress – learn what to teach, and how to prepare for the future
  • Reflect – take time to step back and reset

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A bit lost audiobook
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A Bit Lost [audiobook]

Listen: When Little Owl falls out of the tree, it takes some help from new friends to track down his mummy. Fun voices keep kids engaged.

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Boxing gloves title
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“Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.”

We all carry multiple titles. Which do you prioritize when you walk in the door?

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Christmas Eve guilt

Did we get them enough? Did we get them too much? Every year the same questions, doubts, and guilt.

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“The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled”

To teach our kids, we must know how they learn.

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Broken Barcelona tiles
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“Press ‘B’ to skip tutorial”

It’s not always necessary to drive the lesson home. Even after a little blood.

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“Don’t be such a dad” – How do I do that?

I don’t know how not to be a dad. And I’m still learning how to be one, too.

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No, dads do not have their shit together

We are works in progress. We crash, and we keep trying. Because that’s what real dads do.

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The kind of dad who cries

I was once lost in Hong Kong. Not really lost, lost. But certainly wandering without a great deal of purpose. I walked through markets, noted…

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How to appreciate your body, right now

You know that amazing feeling the day after you’ve been sick? Here’s how to notice it everyday.

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“Don’t spend too much time regretting…”

Said my wife. “Focus on the time you have in front of you. Do your best and enjoy.”

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“There’s a lot of wishes in this yard.”

Your perspective becomes your life. Do you see weeds or wishes?

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“Don’t take pictures. Stand here and see it”

How often do you take time to stop and really see what’s right in front of you?

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Drive the moment you’re in

A mountaintop snowstorm left us lost and scared. Solution? Keep going, one meter at a time.

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Waking to a 3am tornado warning

Safety first, but don’t freak out the kids. What would you do?

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Am I raising imposters?

Beware of that over-praise x criticism combo. And be kind to yourself.

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You f— up again. Congratulations!

Every time you notice you’ve reacted poorly, you take a step forward.

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Why (un)birthdays last two days in our house

Kids are excited. The years go fast. Here’s how stretch out the special times.

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My 5 indispensable daily dad routines

I’m not a very routine person. But these small daily habits add up to big changes over time.

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Crosswalk coffee: a simple act of kindness

What little thing could you slip into your routine to warm up someone’s day?

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A simple Valentine’s Day gift you may have overlooked

It’s a game. But it’s really about time together.

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Don’t be that dad at the ball game

Be there with your kids, but don’t live through them.

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The dad behind the scenes

Exactly where parents should aim to be.

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What should we teach our children?

The future is a great big question mark. Let’s train for that.

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Proof that your kids can change in remarkable ways

If he said “I’m the guy who’s changing” to this, then anything is possible.

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Why my kids’ bedroom is like your life

Where you put your time and energy becomes your reality.

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A wife with a sexual problem

Your partner is aging, just like you. Be kind to each other.

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How to build an igloo snow fort

This is fun. Just 3 steps to help winter spies do what they do best.

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When the destination is not the destination

How often do you let yourself enjoy that space along the way?

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How I responded to an all-day tantrum (for better and worse)

The issue was his. But his dad discovered that he has room to improve too.

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“My brother’s like the windshield wiper on the left”

He hops on me, I push him away. Just like siblings do.

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Creativity is now as important in education as literacy, and we should treat it with the same status.”
— Sir Ken Robinson

Remember…

“The greatest development is achieved during the first years of life, and therefore it is then that the greatest care should be taken. If this is done, then the child does not become a burden; he will reveal himself as the greatest marvel of nature.”
— Maria Montessori

“Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them: work, family, health, friends and spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four balls—family, health, friends, and spirit—are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.”
― Brian Dyson

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