Looking out Loud

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Looking out Loud

and this

on two lines

could it be?

What should I do with my kids?

Connect

       projects, presence, and time well spent

What should I teach my kids?

Learn

      preparing kids for the future they’ll create

How should I take care of myself?

Reflect

      wellbeing, mindfulness, and perspective

Thanks for stopping by. I’m Eric. 

I’m also a dad. And I try hard to be a decent one. I want my kids to thrive and be happy, while they’re still kids and later as adults. 

It’s also fun being a dad. I really enjoy it. It’s an excuse to return to some childhood joys: building legos, doing puzzles, playing games. 

But even with 12 years of experience, I still don’t feel like I know what I’m doing most of the time. And being a dad isn’t my only role. I have a job, a wife, and plenty of hobbies and things I like to do. 

I don’t want to give up on the rest of me while I try to be the best dad I can be. 

So I keep trying to learn from my many mistakes, and move forward. And I try to teach my kids in the best ways I know how. And I’m sharing what we’re learning together along the way. 

And I also keep trying to enjoy each day I’ve got. Because, as you’ve probably experienced, it all goes pretty quickly. 

Here’s how I try.

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    “Presence is not an activity, it’s an availability.”

    Being present isn’t something you 𝘥𝘰, it’s something you relax into. Open to the world that’s right here now, just how it is.

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    “Beliefs are hypotheses to be tested, not treasures to be protected.”

    Situations change. People change. Here’s why actively open-minded parents are better at predicting the future.

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    “I urge you to notice when you’re happy, and think, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’”

    A sunset, a cold beer, a moment with your kids. Here’s Kurt Vonnegut’s two-step process for expressing gratitude.

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    “What we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us.”

    Your kids are learning from you. Especially when you’re not trying to teach them.

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    “It’s not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it.”

    How do you make sure your life is full of time well spent? Here are some reminders.

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    “History is a map of the past, from a particular point of view, to be useful to the modern traveller.”

    You can’t change your past, but you can choose to connect the dots in different ways.

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    Lacking confidence? Take action

    Sometimes the best way to overcome doubt is to just get started.

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    God lives in a cornfield

    Stop, look, listen. You can find It anywhere.

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    Slow down: Why are we in such a rush to get to the future?

    Get ready for the future. But don’t miss the life in front of you right now.

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    How family dinners add up over time

    A small daily investment amounts to hundreds of hours of family time per year. Here’s how to calculate the potential.

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    Run the race you’re in

    Thoughts of future pain made my current struggle hurt more. The key is to catch that mental time travel and come back to now.

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    “When I die, I want my body to be eaten by a lion.” – my child

    His reason surprised me.

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    Preparing a first 10-day Vipassana retreat: What I wish I would’ve known

    Going to your first Vipassana course? Here’s what to know, how to prepare, and answers to common questions.

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    Slow down: Why are we in such a rush to get to the future?

    Get ready for the future. But don’t miss the life in front of you right now.

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    “I urge you to notice when you’re happy, and think, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’” 1024 768 Looking out Loud

    “I urge you to notice when you’re happy, and think, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’”

    A sunset, a cold beer, a moment with your kids. Here’s Kurt Vonnegut’s two-step process for expressing gratitude.

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    Run the race you’re in

    Thoughts of future pain made my current struggle hurt more. The key is to catch that mental time travel and come back to now.

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    When expectations and reality collide, stories fly

    A Starbucks line reveals the disconnect between the story in my head, and the world right in front of me.

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    Why my kids’ bedroom is like your life

    Where you put your time and energy becomes your reality.

Read—and listen—to what’s going on at Looking out Loud:

Connect

Making better quality time with your kids. Here’s why, what, and how.

Grow

You’re co-growing. You’re building each others minds.

Reflect

Take time to look back, feel, learn. Just a little longer.

Trying to be a better dad, while still growing up myself

I’m a proud papa of two boys. Married. Working. Tired. Trying. I want to be a great dad, and I know it’s my most important job. But it ain’t always easy.

At Dadspace I share ways we’re trying. Start here if you’re looking for ways to engage your kids and make learning fun, or if you just need another dad’s shoulder to lean on (moms welcome too).

“Education is a once in a lifetime opportunity to open children’s hearts and minds to the unbelievable wonder of the universe.”

– Sir Anthony Seldon

Engage curiosity and creativity – both child and adult will love connecting in these projects

“Your experience is your life. This moment is your experience. And this moment. And this one.”

– Sir Anthony Seldon

What is means to live a good life – mindfulness, reflection, the story of you

“Education is a once in a lifetime opportunity to open children’s hearts and minds to the unbelievable wonder of the universe.”

– Sir Anthony Seldon

Read about what we’re doing at Dadspace:

Kids art painting confidence

Lacking confidence? Take action

Lacking confidence? Take action 1240 930 Looking out Loud

Sometimes the best way to overcome doubt is to just get started.

Light show tunnel into the future

Slow down: Why are we in such a rush to get to the future?

Slow down: Why are we in such a rush to get to the future? 1280 720 Looking out Loud

Get ready for the future. But don’t miss the life in front of you right now.

Family dinner time

How family dinners add up over time

How family dinners add up over time 1024 687 Looking out Loud

A small daily investment amounts to hundreds of hours of family time per year. Here’s how to calculate the potential.

quote "Beliefs are hypotheses to be tested, not treasures to be protected."

“Beliefs are hypotheses to be tested, not treasures to be protected.”

“Beliefs are hypotheses to be tested, not treasures to be protected.” 1024 683 Looking out Loud

Situations change. People change. Here’s why actively open-minded parents are better at predicting the future.

Take a minute to look through new eyes

Listen up: 60 seconds of unfiltered looking out loud, every day.

Bringing awareness to moments, appreciation for life, and perspective on raising and engaging little people.

Open your eyes, and listen
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Lacking confidence? Take action

Sometimes the best way to overcome doubt is to just get started.

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God lives in a cornfield

Stop, look, listen. You can find It anywhere.

read more
Light show tunnel into the future
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Slow down: Why are we in such a rush to get to the future?

Get ready for the future. But don’t miss the life in front of you right now.

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To figure out how to be a better dad,

I figured I should understand my own journey…

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We’re moving our family to another country for a year

We’re submitting our family to an unnecessary experiment. Here’s why we’re leaving our simple life, and how we got organized to make it happen.

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What does 40 years look like?

Take a visual trip through the past 40 years. A memory lane full of thousands of photos, news stories, tech developments, and pop culture. A journey through the coevolution of my mind, body, and the world around.

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What does 40 years look like?

In 2020 I turn 40. What have I done with these years? How has the world changed over the past 4 decades? I dig into the coevolution of my mind, body, and the world around me to find out.

From my conception on a warm July eve, to being a middle-aged dad of my own two boys. Take a visual trip through the past 40 years.

What does 40 years look like?

In 2020 I turn 40. What have I done with these years? How has the world changed over the past 4 decades? I dig into the coevolution of my mind, body, and the world around me to find out.

From my conception on a warm July eve, to being a middle-aged dad of my own two boys. Take a visual trip through the past 40 years.