What Christmas lights can teach you about life

You'll never take it all in. And that's okay.

What Christmas lights can teach you about life

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This is 60-second Dadspeak—daily reflections on becoming a dad, while still growing up myself. You can find the full mini-pod audio list here.


The other night we went for an evening drive to see Christmas lights. Some long-time locals tipped us off to the neighborhoods that decorate to impress.

As we were driving along, one of my kids moaned desperately from the back seat, “Oh man, there’s too many lights. I don’t know what side to look at.”

Even though I was driving slowly, you had to make a choice to either constantly whip your head from one side of the car to the other, or to pick a side and focus. It was impossible to take it all in. Some glittery sights had to be missed.

The rest of life works the same. There are an infinite number of things you could be doing in any moment. An infinite number of books to read, or shows to watch, or hobbies to pursue. But you can’t do it all. You have to make a choice.

You can let this stress you out. Or you can accept that it is part of reality given the limited time and attention we have. You’ll never take it all in. But don’t despair. Just continually try to refocus your attention on the things that really matter.

→ Remember, it’s attention that matters, not time. You can save whole days, and squander them all away.


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